Category: the Rant Board
Listen can some one please tell me how and why would or can some one judge you by what some one else has said or from just what they think about you from one little conversation. Please tell me why it's so hard to make friends that you reall think you should be friends with. I won't say any names or anything, but look I my self do not complain about anything because what ever happens happens and I deal with it, but I have ran in to something I do not understand and I have decided to turn to my zoners. Look if you meet some one and you guys have fun the first time arround while chillin. Then you realize you know some of the same people and you go talk to some of them. See I knew that this person they spoke to would have said something to them, because the last time we talked, we didn't end up on good terms. Well what ever was said this person took it and made there mind up that they didn't want to have anything to do with me. It wasn't anything bad at all it was something said out of anger, but not as serious. Anyone that know me on here can tell you that I am just a very friendly person. I do not have any one on my ignore list, because I can get along with anyone, and if I cant then I can just not pay them any attention. I personly focus on pleasing the ladies but I do have my hom boys as well. Anyway just post what ever your thoughts are, I will apreciate them and take them in to thought.
Well, your post confused the hell out of me, but...
People judged on what is said, because they have nothing else to go on.
Like if so and so, said that someone was a slut, or a pervert, as happens on the zone sometimes, one would believe that person, because they have nothing else on which to base their opinion.
and that's my input
I think to many people listen to what is said and take it as the gospel truth; when they shouldn't. Maybe it's because they're to afraid to take a chance on any kind of relationship that a friend won't approve of, or maybe they can't make such decisions on their own. What ever it is, it's their problem, and not yours. My theory is that if someone wants to judge someone else do to what another says then what they lose is all their fault. No matter...Sometimes people try to warn out of protection, but all to often people speak out of anger, and there by say things that should never be said, but if someone wants to listen, there isn't much that can be done...Hope this made since.
Either people are lazy and believe it's too much trouble to think for themselves, or they're too concerned with what other people, even the most distant stranger, think of them, so if somebody says "Don't be friends with such-and-such a person because of whatever' then people think they'd just better not challenge it or else they'll not have any friends.
It isn't love what makes the world go round, but fear, isn't it? Shame on it.
Personally I reach my own independent conclusions about people, but know of people who don't. If people are going to judge you according to what somebody else has said about you, even if they receive no undoubtable proof that what is been said about you is correct, they are not worth bothering with. The reason for that is, that should you be friends with them for a few weeks or months or even years, and they suddenly hear something about you which they don't like, and then decide it is correct, your friendship with them will end. If they are so keen to know what people think of each other, they may also breach your confidence if you express opinions about other people which you wish for them not to hear. Be more selective about who you become friends with, and be prepared for the fact that not all friendships which begin will be sustained.
well, since on here, or anywhere online, like chat rooms etc, I go by how you treat me. for instance, if you are nice to me and treat me with respect, I don't care what anyhone else says about you, not that i necessarily think the other person is lying, because sometimes, mixing personalities is like mixing chemicals toether, some combine easily and well, and some don't work at all, or just explode, boom. so if someone is nice to me and treats me with respect, I won't stop talking to him or her unless that person starts being mean to me or does somethingmean, or says something mean. in short, you and you alone have to prove to methat you are a jerk. and vice versa, if you weren't nice to me, it's up to you and you alone, not anyone else, to prove to me you aren't a jerk. On chat sites, I've come across people who seem to hate each others guts, and both or all have been nice to me, so I still talk to allk of them. strangely, I like people that a lot of others can't stand, and some peoiple like others I can't stand. I won't hold it against you if you like someone I don't care for, I just put it down to personalities, some people's personalities just aren't compatible in any way, shape or form. it's not necessarily anyones' fault.
wonderwoman
It is easier to believe bad about someone or something than it is to believe something good. We as humans are more apt to believe the bad in something or someone because we want to defend ourselves against that which is bad. I think it is a survival instinct. More than some of the time if one asks another to remember the first memory they can, it will be something bad. We remember bad things in more detail in the hopes that we will not repeat the action. Regret in my view is the counter balance. In this concrete jungle the mind sees threats differently. Really the brain' ony operates on choices. good, or bad, fight, or flight. Be safe, remember the bad, learn from it, and mabey we won't repeat it. That's my view.
Nem
i'll just say this ! Everyone has some kind of problem with someone in there life at sometime or another. And it's hard to say to yourself that you don't care what people think of you. I know i sometimes have a problem with that. but i'm trying to be better at not careing what people even think of me.and you know what! one day you will realize who are your friends and who aren't. Sometimes it can take years and some times there are those special people who you can just connect with. and it will always. seem like you where always friends. So just be yourself and those special people will find you.
Smile!